Kate Walter of Manhattan has had a hard time of it. After 26 years in a relationship, she and her partner broke up, which she has written about in a new book, Looking for a Kiss: A Chronicle of Downtown Heartbreak and Healing. Suddenly, Kate had to rediscover herself. She did, and offers BoomerCafé’s readers 15 tips about how to do it.
I never thought I’d join a church again, but reconnecting with a religious ritual was big part of my healing process after my 26 year lesbian relationship ended. I replaced Sunday brunch with singing and socializing at a progressive church. I made new friends and felt renewed.
Here are my tips for adding some more zip into your life, which worked well for me.
1) Start attending services at a church or temple or other place of worship.
2) Join a gym or health club or yoga center.
3) Walk at least one mile everyday, preferably in nature
4) Take a workshop or a class at a college or adult ed center.
5) Go away for a weekend retreat or creative seminar in a beautiful setting
6) Learn how to meditate and do it daily.
7) Start keeping a gratitude journal
8) Reconnect with old friends from college or high school.
9) Spend more quality time with family and friends.
10) Read at least one book a week. Mix it up- fiction & nonfiction.
11) Have an art adventure weekly- go to a play, museum, concert, comedy show.
12) Mentor a younger colleague in your workplace.
13) Take a training in your workplace. Learn a different approach or new skill.
14) If you are single, try online dating. You never know.
15) Swim and play in the ocean. Ride the waves.