Larry Lefkowitz

We can all be lucky in love. Surely by now we’ve had two chances: either to stick with the love we found the first time, or to find love a second time … or more. Baby Boomer Larry Lefkowitz has felt the pain of love lost … and is now working out his search for love again.

They say that old love is the best love, and that bad love is no love. There are also other things ‘they’ say about love, but all I am discovering is that it is as funny and fickle as it has ever been.

I am the product of two divorces, evidence that love changes and comes back to you … and leaves you again … and maybe comes back. Someone like me can never know if there is such a thing as everlasting love. But I am relearning what anyone would forget during a marriage. It is hard to get to know people, and harder as you get older. So much of what we know about ourselves becomes lost or compressed with age. When you converse with someone you are attracted to, it sort of comes out in an abridged version.

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Boomer Larry Lefkowitz has written often for BoomerCafé. He writes about his life. And just like the rest of us, living as long as we’ve lived, there have been highs, and there have been lows. In this piece, Larry gives us a frank insight into some lowest lows. But also, how he has moved past them.

I have resisted writing about this part of my personal life, because it’s painful….and some of you might be able to identify and commiserate because your lives have gone the same way. But what I decided was, the pro’s outweigh the con’s. For me…and maybe for you, too.

Last Fall, I ended my second marriage. There were all kinds of reasons, all mine, but mainly, I didn’t want to live with my wife’s baggage any longer. Her daughter’s behavior and how she dealt with it. Her ex-husband’s interference and how I was expected to tolerate it. I had tried to live with all this for almost seven years but there wasn’t enough progress to feel encouraged. I realized that I preferred to be alone rather than be frustrated and aggravated by being together. It got to the point where I was frustrated and aggravated more often than I was happy or content.

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