A baby boomer appreciates the good luck of his life

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Baby boomers have gone through a lot in all the decades of our existence. That’s why we like what Larry Checco has written for BoomerCafé. Although residents of Silver Spring, Maryland, Larry and his wife just took a trip to Maine … and it was a reminder of how long he’s been as lucky as he is.

Beating the Odds

The sun is rising on the coast of Maine over the quaint Ocean Point Inn.

My wife Laurie, and I are sitting on Adirondack chairs, cups of warm coffee in hand, watching gulls and loons skim the water in search of breakfast.

Photo by Lynn Rodman.

Morning coffee – Laurie and Larry Checco enjoy life during a holiday in Maine.
Photo by Lynn Rodman.

We’re vacationing, and as I gaze over this quintessential New England scene of rock and rippling sea I’m thinking …

We beat the odds!

After nearly 40 years, somehow Laurie and I are still happily together.

I must confess that over the course of those years, the arc of our lives and our love often got blurred — or buried — while raising two sons, pursuing careers, caring for elderly parents, fending off financial concerns, and tending to all the other more nuanced trials and tribulations that confuse and complicate marriages … and life.

But somewhere during our journey we learned how to fight fair, to be honest with each other (telling the truth means never having to remember what you said), to not hold grudges, to respect and learn from one another, and to deeply care for each other’s physical and emotional wellbeing.

Larry Checco with his wife, Laurie. (Photo by Roland Fiorelli)

Larry Checco with his wife, Laurie.
(Photo by Roland Fiorelli)

Truth be told, Laurie always has been the string to my balloon. It’s taken me decades to transform from an angry young man to a belatedly calmer, though still edgy, ole boomer who understands that true prosperity is appreciating what one has. And I — nay, we, Laurie and I — have quite a bit.

Today we’ll kayak the waters just outside our rented seaside accommodations, dine on succulent seafood, walk the rocky shoreline, and fall into bed, loving one another.

Fact is, after decades of being responsible for others, it’s now our time.

However, after bearing close witness to what our parents went through during their final years, we’re fully aware that what we have today won’t necessarily be here tomorrow.

That’s why we’ve vowed that the most important thing we can do for ourselves is to stay as healthy as we can for as long as we can.

Photo by Lynn Rodman.

Photo by Lynn Rodman.

We’ll spend the rest of our years trying to give back a bit of what we’ve been given and hopefully leave our progeny and our little acre of the world a bit better than what we first encountered.

And tonight, before going to bed, we’ll watch the sun set over lovely Ocean Point, understanding that nothing is forever, that life is fleeting — but good — and for that we are eternally grateful!

Larry Checco
©2014

10 Comments

  1. “True prosperity is appreciating what one has.” This is so true! I wonder why it takes us so long to figure this out? Congratulations on your successful marriage and life. It sounds like you’ve figured out the key to happiness. Thank you for sharing your insights!

  2. Larry,

    Thank you for the terrific reminder of what’s important. Think of how wonderful it would be if we each started our day remembering what we are thankful for. We would all have fewer problems, that is for sure. Congrats as well to your dedication to good health.

    I wish you all the best,

    Randy

  3. My heartfelt thanks to all those who read my writing. And many additional thanks to David Henderson and Greg Dobbs for providing me and so many others this wonderful cathartic outlet called BoomerCafe. It’s an opportunity to leave a little something behind, something that says we were here, damn it, with all our joys, foibles and flaws.

  4. Life’s problems can suck a relationship dry for sure. However, focusing on the positive amidst the storm sustains us. Thank you for sharing a piece of your journey publicly. It’s difficult to put into words the essence of our existence and its sustainability. You did it beautifully.

  5. On our 25th anniversary, I was told I’d have to make a speech on the secret of our lasting love. Not being a comfortable public speaker, I kept winnowing my comment down until I finallly got it to four words: “Choose well, fight fair.”

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