We have a piece for you about a survey that we find interesting. It’s not about baby boomers in particular, but we’re certainly right in the heart of the study’s demographic. It’s about how we met the man or woman we love. And how we’ve passed the story on to the next generations. Or, how we haven’t. It stems from a survey taken by Bob Brody, the creator of letterstomykids.org.
Most parents have told their children how they met their future spouses. And most say they consider it highly important to do so. But others have never shared that story. And almost none has captured the memory in writing.
That’s what we’ve learned from an informal Valentine’s Day survey of 100 parents conducted by letterstomykids.org, a blog created to inspire parents to record personal family history, in writing, for future generations.
For example, 77% of parents have told their children how they met their future spouses. And of those, 45% did it to “preserve personal family history,” while 34% did it because “the kids asked.”
Of the parents who have yet to tell their children, 66% never found the right time, 20% doubt the kids would be interested,” 7% said it was “unimportant” to reveal, and another 7% just preferred to keep the matter private.
Asked how important it is – on a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 being the highest – for parents to tell their children how they met, 43% gave it a 10, with only 3% ranking it less than a 5.
Here are some other key findings:
- 6% of the children who were told how their parents came together reacted with “amusement,” 32% with “appreciation,” and 13% with “indifference.”
- All of the parents who told their children did so face to face. But only 4% of those parents also wrote the story down.
- 26% of parents describe their first meeting as “love at first sight,” 7% as “doubt at first sight,” and 67% as “something in between.”
Personally, I think it’s terrific that most parents tell their kids how they met. But I also urge parents to put it down for perpetuity in writing. It’s history, after all. Only then can parents be sure that even if the story is forgotten, it will always be there, in black and white, as a reminder.