And thank you also to Michael, Lynn, Karl, Allison, DMH, Andii, Mike, Alysa, Joe, Michael, Boomer54 Mark, Donna, Ted and all of you for your wonderful comments. Mucho appreciated!

It hurts so much to read that, about how procreation is a basic drive for human beings, because I, too, want to “procreate” like everyone else. I want more than anything to fall in love and be crazy about each other and yes, procreate the way we are designed. That’s exactly what I want and I’m driven to that, yet cannot find anyone to share that dream with.

I didn’t purposely wait this long. I truly was a late bloomer in life regarding marriage and children. Believe me, the knowledge of how much time I’ve wasted is killing me. I’m trying my best to hang on to any shred of hope but every day that hope is shrinking.

My problem is I’m not coming across any men who want to start a family. I’m on EH and a few other sites and I don’t have a problem getting dates with men and having a truly fun, relaxing time with them, but after 2-3 dates when the conversation turns to where we are in life, and he asks me about what I want and my goals, and I ask him, etc and I very casually mention I really hope to settle down with the love of my life and start a family and have a wonderful life together, I can actually feel it turning him off, and I never hear from him again. A few responded with “are you kidding me, at your age?” and “no way do I want more kids at my age” and the like.

I could probably find someone to steadily date and even get serious with, but the obstacle and deal-breaker will be my desire for our own family.

Men who want to start a family aren’t going to set out to do it with a 44 yr old woman.

Yes, I’ve been putting myself out there one more time. I have met some more people – all very nice but so far, no one where we click in terms of wanting to settle down and have a family. Plenty of men and women discuss this every day and things click and bingo, they’re on their way to getting married and having children. Everyone except for me.

I don’t know where the plethora of men are, that you mention are out there. I’ve been out there for quite a while now. I’m feeling so little hope and am truly feeling devastated.

I don’t know where else to turn anymore.

Thank you for your words, and for taking the time to write.

Donna

There are lots of other women who waited to have children until their 40s and even early 50s. Actress Adrienne Barbeau gave birth to twin sons in 1997, at the age of 51. Actress Susan Sarandon had her first baby at age 46. Helen Fielding, author of Bridget Jones’ Diary, had her first baby at 43 and second baby at 48. Actress Holly Hunter gave birth to twins at age 47. Marcia Cross of Desperate Housewives fame had twin girls at age 44. Cheryle Tiegs had twins at age 52. Raisa Akhmadeeva gave birth to her first child in 2008, at the age of 56 ( her husband had three children from his previous marriage, but they always wanted to have a child together).

As for meeting men, I’m certain there are plenty of men who are interested in starting families. Procreation is a basic drive for most human beings. Men feel a sort of biological time clock just like women, albeit perhaps ten years later than it hits most women. I became a first-time dad in my 50s, a good friend of mine is 65 with 4 year old twins. My guess is, there is a plethora of men aged 45 to 65 who are feeling a biological time clock ticking, just as you are. Much like finding a good job, you must keep putting yourself out there to meet the right man. And remember, to a 59 year old man … you are still a very young woman!

Hope that helps to some degree. Best of luck to you.

I always enjoy reading stories like Morgan’s, it just confirms that we are not like any other generation. In the last 2 generations, having kids at these ages was unusual to say the least.

We, baby boomers, are turning the notions of kids, grand kids, and retirement on its ear.

Morgan, what a great way to stay young! 50 really is the new 40!!

Thanks for sharing…

Mark