Comments on: Survival and Recovery from Grief http://www.boomercafe.com/2009/01/23/survival-recovery-grief/ The online magazine for baby boomers with active lifestyles Thu, 17 May 2012 01:17:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: pat tobin http://www.boomercafe.com/2009/01/23/survival-recovery-grief/#comment-2195 pat tobin Wed, 04 Feb 2009 14:51:17 +0000 http://www.boomercafe.com/?p=1734#comment-2195 We are so often asked to deny our grief (and get on with it). To grieve is a natural and healthy process. It serves a purpose. Grief opens our hearts in a way we fear but only by embracing our grief can we go forward well. We don't "get on with it" when we don't take the time to grieve. We just get a nasty kind of numb. We are so often asked to deny our grief (and get on with it).

To grieve is a natural and healthy process. It serves a purpose. Grief opens our hearts in a way we fear but only by embracing our grief can we go forward well.

We don’t “get on with it” when we don’t take the time to grieve. We just get a nasty kind of numb.

]]> By: Jane Galbraith http://www.boomercafe.com/2009/01/23/survival-recovery-grief/#comment-2179 Jane Galbraith Sat, 24 Jan 2009 14:55:51 +0000 http://www.boomercafe.com/?p=1734#comment-2179 I agree with you that grief has been around for a long time. Baby Boomers will have a difficult time with this as they have been a spoiled generation in the fact that they have grown up in a fast paced "pain free" society. They don't cope with pain well and as you know WILL have pain when someone they care for deeply dies. They look for quick fixes and there is no quick fix for this. You have to feel the pain and build a new world without that person in it. Thank you for commenting on the article. Jane I agree with you that grief has been around for a long time. Baby Boomers will have a difficult time with this as they have been a spoiled generation in the fact that they have grown up in a fast paced “pain free” society. They don’t cope with pain well and as you know WILL have pain when someone they care for deeply dies. They look for quick fixes and there is no quick fix for this. You have to feel the pain and build a new world without that person in it. Thank you for commenting on the article.
Jane

]]> By: dearpru http://www.boomercafe.com/2009/01/23/survival-recovery-grief/#comment-2177 dearpru Fri, 23 Jan 2009 14:40:37 +0000 http://www.boomercafe.com/?p=1734#comment-2177 This article is amazing. I have buried (figuratively speaking)both my parents, my best friend who died at 47 of melanoma, a baby, and my dear and loyal cat who gave me unconditional love for 15 years. In the rush for "getting things done" and profitability, the human-ness of all these events had to be shoved under the rug; grief-postponement. I had to carry on...I don't think it has ever been different; that is, our ancestors still had to get in the crops, had to feed their children, till the soil, labor in the mines, etc., it's just that we expect more now because we perceive ourselves as having evolved to the point when emotional care-and-feeding is now part of the hierarchy of needs, much as food, clothing and shelter once were. So, it's our "boomer" expectations that have changed, really. I'm not saying this is indulgent; it is what it is. But, I think grief, and working thru it and living with it, has been with us for a long, long time. This article is amazing. I have buried (figuratively speaking)both my parents, my best friend who died at 47 of melanoma, a baby, and my dear and loyal cat who gave me unconditional love for 15 years. In the rush for “getting things done” and profitability, the human-ness of all these events had to be shoved under the rug; grief-postponement. I had to carry on…I don’t think it has ever been different; that is, our ancestors still had to get in the crops, had to feed their children, till the soil, labor in the mines, etc., it’s just that we expect more now because we perceive ourselves as having evolved to the point when emotional care-and-feeding is now part of the hierarchy of needs, much as food, clothing and shelter once were. So, it’s our “boomer” expectations that have changed, really. I’m not saying this is indulgent; it is what it is. But, I think grief, and working thru it and living with it, has been with us for a long, long time.

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